About a week ago, I met with one of my friends for beer. We catched up on each other's lives, spoke about current day events - mainly the [War in Ukraine](https://war.ukraine.ua/), the recent crash in the stock market, and other events happening right now in the world. At some point I’ve said “*Everything looks so fucked up*”, and he added “*Yeah…*”.



After a few moments of silence, I asked him “*Do you think our parents had similar feelings about their lives and their future?*”. My friend is a popular blogger and has a big community around him, and he went on telling me that just recently he ran a survey among his community on the exact same question. We were both born in Post Soviet Union countries and most of his community are members from post USSR, so he asked them whether their parents had a feeling that their lives and future is totally fucked up. And surprisingly, their parents' answers were - no. They didn’t have that feeling.

# A brief history of USSR
Most of our parents were born somewhere around 1950-1960. A mere decade after the end of the second world war. The USSR had lost 13.7% of its population, a devastating 26,600,000, due to WW2. You don’t recover from that in one decade.

On top of all that, Germany and Berlin were divided among the winning allied powers, the most notable being the US and USSR, with a completely different world views and societal order - Capitalism vs Communism. This led to yet another war - The Cold War which lasted almost 5 decades. The US was spreading Capitalism all over the world, while the USSR was hidden behind an Iron Curtain manifesting its communist views to its citizens.

The peak point of the cold war was the Cuban Missile Crisis - a 35 day confrontation that could have brought the world and human civilization to an end with Nuclear War.

Then in 1968 Soviet and Warsaw Pact troops invaded Czechoslovakia. In 1969 there was a clash between Soviet and Chinese troops across the border. Then things were silent for a few decades, up until 1986 when the Chernobyl nuclear power station exploded.

1989 signals the beginning of “Revolutions of 1989” leading to toppling of Soviet imposed communist regimes, the Fall of the Berlin Wall and eventually the Fall of USSR in 1991.

The fall of the USSR followed by very unsettling times and the rise of Anti Semitism which forced a lot of people to immigrate. And the rest is modern history.

A 50 years of tension between two world powers, a prospect of Nuclear Annihilation and Iron Curtain, and yet, our parents did not feel that everything is fucked up. Why is that?

# Information
On 26 of April, 1986 at the No.4 Nuclear Reactor of the Chernobyl Nuclear Power Plant - an explosion occurred. An explosion that released enormous amounts of radiation over Ukraine, Belarus and Russia and neighboring European countries. Only 36 hours after the event, the first news about evacuations started to appear in mass media. And on 28th of April, the Russian national federal news agency reported that an explosion occurred.

An event that big was hidden for more than 2 days. This was in 1986. Also, in that year, IBM announced its first laptop computer - the IBM PC Convertible, weighing 12 pounds (~5.4 kg), which is 18 pounds (~8.1 kg) lighter than the earlier portable computer.

Another nuclear disaster occured on 11 of March 2011 at the Fukushima Daiichi Nuclear Power Plant in Japan. At 14:46 local time, an earthquake hit Honshu Island causing nuclear reactors 1, 2 and 3 to shut down automatically. At 15:46 a tsunami overtops the seawall that was designed to protect the plant and causes flooding and malfunction of the backup generator, which in turn leads to overheating.

16:00 - The Nuclear and Industrial Safety Agency of Japan initiates an emergency headquarters to gather information. And at 19:03, a bit more than 4 hours from the start of the event, the prime minister Naoto Kan declares a nuclear emergency status. Also in 2011 Emojis became mainstream after their introduction on the iPhone.

The way we access information today is way different than what it was in the USSR. Back in USSR times, you’d learn about events from the radio or newspapers. Radios were not portable so you rarely carried one in your pocket; and newspapers needed to be printed and distributed, so information became outdated by the time you read it.

Moreover - radio air time was limited as well as the amount of news you could print in a single newspaper, so editors had to pick the most “interesting” or “shocking” news to publish. Individual press was nearly non existing; and major news outlets, especially in the USSR, were controlled by the ruling party. So you get one point of view, censored by the ruling party.

This is way different than today. Today you have a ton of independent, oftentimes first-hand reports of live events. YouTubers and Tik-Tokers find themselves among the early ones to cover major events, way ahead of news agencies - which still rely on some sort of editing and publishing format.

News are broadcasted via countless TV channels, while at the same time being mirrored to websites and YouTube streaming. On demand news is accessible on a by-minute basis through platforms like YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Tik Tok and Telegram. Unfiltered, uncensored. All in one device, weighing somewhere around 6.1 ounce (~173 grams) that fits easily in your pocket, with a constant connection to the Internet.

# Our world in data
I really like the website [ourworldindata.org](https://ourworldindata.org/). They have 3280 charts across 297 topics including - Demographic, Health, Food, Living Conditions, etc.

According to some of their research, all major metrics associated with happy life - are increasing. Life expectancy, for example, has grown from an average of 32 years in 1900, to  an average of 72 years in 2019 ([source](https://ourworldindata.org/human-development-index#health)). The share of battle deaths is declining ([source](https://ourworldindata.org/war-and-peace#the-share-of-battle-deaths-is-declining-even-faster)). Global education has increased as well ([source](https://ourworldindata.org/global-education)).

And yet, we feel like everything is doomed. Especially during the past 3 years. And the biggest reason that my friend and I believe is to blame - is social media and rapid access to information.

Humans developed from hunter-gatherers in predator filled environments. Our brains are programmed to look for danger. If you spot the lion before it spots you - you get another day to live. We are addicted to “bad” news. Bad news helps us survive.

Now - here is the catch. Evolution works well over time. A long time. Like a really long time. You won't see substantial change in the evolution of our brain over one generation. Technology on the other side progresses super fast. The first transistor computers appeared in 1955. There are now teenagers who have never seen a Floppy Disk before.

Technology has blessed us with many good things. But our brains did not evolve enough to adapt to technology, so we are still hooked on looking for disasters. Especially now - when disasters are one swipe away. Disasters and catastrophes sell. Nobody wants to read the news about peaceful pandas. We are hooked on gossip, and “fail” videos. We are motivated by a scarcity mindset that is being sold to us by marketers. “Beware! Only today! 19.99 instead of gazillion”.

An entire generation is feeling hopeless, while the data shows that our world is becoming better, all due to rapid access to technology and by-minute coverage of major world events.


The Future is Grim. Maybe.


On 19th of January I've had enough. I was stressed. Stressed mainly because of overusing my phone for both social media (Reddit and YouTube in my case) and for news checking. So I decided to do what everyone else would recommend you to do once you reach this point - delete social media from your phone. 



So I've deleted Reddit, disabled YouTube (thank you big phone manufacturer that preinstall certain apps on their phones without the ability to uninstall them, only disable) and blocked the only news website I was using (this block included block on PC as well). And I've created a fancy tracking calendar, hang in on my corkboard and every day crossed out the previous day, in case I've managed to stay away from social media on my phone, which I'm happy to report, I did for 33 days in a row.

In order for it to make sense, I first need to tell you about my relationship with my phone and social media (from now on, when I say social media I mean Reddit and YouTube since I use Facebook mainly for marketplace abilities and mainly on PC, and I don't use Instagram or any other social platform).

You see, Reddit for me was a feed of "inspirational" pictures. I like Living spaces, I like mechanical keyboard and watches, I like computers and networking gear. So I'm subscribed to [/r/battlestations](http://reddit.com/r/battlestations), [/r/EDC](http://reddit.com/r/EDC), [/r/malelivingspace](http://reddit.com/r/malelivingspace) and similar - which all are picture based. So when you open the Reddit App you have a nice picture feed of EDC items, battlestations and etc. A great time filler for when you are bored. But then little by little my habits started to slip. I'd finish scrolling my feed in few minutes but was still bored so I started to glance at [/r/all](http://reddit.com/r/all) or [/r/popular](http://reddit.com/r/popular) which now made me an expert in US politics (and I don't even live there!) which obviously contributed to more stress (as politics are never rainbow colors). Add to that the fact that my lunch or dinner would be accompanied by the one and only - YouTube. I felt that I was either working or doing something else that involved Reddit / YouTube / New reading.

A word on PC usage. When I'm on my PC, I'm doing one of 2 things - I either do work for my day to day job or work on my hobbies. So I was more mindful about the way I use Reddit or YouTube there. Add since Reddit on PC is not that useful as picture feed, I rarely visited it from my PC.

### The "A-Ha!" moment

On a regular evening, I was driving my wife to therapeutic massage, after which she is usually very relaxed and advised not to drive. While she was doing the therapy, I was walking (a habit I'm trying to build) and listening to an audio book. Closer to the end of the 1 hour mark, I went back to the car to make sure that my wife won't have to wait for me and by that time I've finished listening to one chapter of the book and was not interested in starting a new one. I entered the car and started to wait. And at that time, the "A-Ha!" moment, also known as Eureka, came to me.

When people ask for suggestions about phone addiction, and mainly constant Instagram or Facebook scrolling - they are being told to "Just delete these apps. You won't miss anything". And it's true, I didn't miss. All the important news I've "missed" - were filled to me by my friends; the YouTube videos were still waiting for me when I used YouTube on my PC; and the Reddit posts - well.. They are just nice time fillers. And while I agree that being exposed to nice houses or beautiful wardrobes, can shape the way you decorate your house or dress (you can read more about my "dressing up" experiences in this blog post I've published - [You are not your news feed! Or maybe you are?](/you-are-not-your-news-feed-or-maybe-you-are/)) I believe the good ol' saying of "Everything is good in moderation" applies here very well. The benefits of nice houses or computers, were overtaken by the amounts of stress I was feeling and I prefer to be stress free rather than having a nice "battlestation".

So here I was, sitting my car, **bored**, checking WhatsApp every 20 seconds, checking my calendar every 30 seconds (and no, don't get me wrong, I'm not super busy CEO whose schedule changes every 10 minutes) - while waiting for my wife to arrive so we could drive back home.

And at this moment I've realized - *We have it backwards*! Deleting social media apps from our phones is like taking pain killers every day because you have a headache - sure the **symptom** goes away, you are no longer addicted to social media (or have headaches) but the problem stays there - something is wrong with your health (otherwise you wouldn't have constant headaches) and you **still don't know how to be bored**.

See, the reason why I've used my phone while eating or when waiting for my wife in the car is because I didn't know how to enjoy food or be bored. Yes, I've deleted Reddit and YouTube and I didn't use those anymore, but I was still reaching to my phone during those 33 days just to check WhatsApp, look at package tracking or stock prices, a set of absolutely random and useless actions that are the by product of not knowing how to live in the moment, enjoy simple things like a meal or enjoying being bored.

So whats next? I'm done with the challenge. I've enabled YouTube once again because I was sick and in bed, couldn't sleep, so decided to watch some YouTube videos. I occasionally check the news (every block can be bypassed). I still didn't install Reddit, but I guess it will happen sooner or later. I think this challenge was worth the conclusion I've came too. The message of deleting social media for "addicted" people is so strong that it perceived as the ultimate solution for addiction while my experience tells the opposite - its just eliminating the symptoms, but the problem stays. I don't reach to my phone when I'm truly living in the moment (being in the Flow, having a deep conversation, watching a movie or etc) so the problem is not Reddit or YouTube on my phone - the problem is my relationship with boredom. I guess I'll have to work on that.

Disclaimer: Obviously I'm not an expert on addictions. My experience might not apply to you and by eliminating social media from your life, you might "heal" your addiction. It all depends on the answer to the question "Why do you use it in the first place?". I'm not having anxiety because my social feed is filled with younger, more successful people than me, nor I suffer from [FOMO](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fear_of_missing_out) as my social apps are not associated with family or friends (like Instagram or Facebook). But if your main issues are stress or anxiety from FOMO or constant comparison to younger (or same aged) people, who "look" more successful than you - then yes, deleting social media might do wonders to you. So as always, your mileage may vary.


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The Future is Grim. Maybe.

I did 33 days of "social media on my phone detox" challenge